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The Carly Simon Guide to Overcoming Your Freelance Fears and Achieving Superstardom

Carol Tice

Carly Simon

Carly Simon with her Working Girl Oscar in 1989.

Do you sometimes worry that you don’t have what it takes to make it as a writer?

That everyone will laugh at you and you’ll be humiliated?

Feel like you can’t get your personal life drama to stop long enough to write?

If you answered “yes” to any of those questions, take a page from the book of legendary singer/songwriter Carly Simon, who is the subject of a recently published unauthorized autobiography, More Room in a Broken Heart: The True Adventures of Carly Simon. While I gather the book may not be entirely accurate, it gets the basics straight.

You might think of Simon as tall, beautiful, and naturally gifted — I always did — but that wasn’t always how she saw herself. She was paralyzed with stage fright for much of her career. She was shy and stammered as a child. Not exactly an obvious formula for an award-winning singer.

She also had quite a few low points in her career, including one nightmare concert where she was so stressed she reportedly started menstruating onstage and then collapsed! It doesn’t get a lot more embarrassing than that.

Her determination to keep going no matter what life threw her way allowed her to create an award-winning career that included an Oscar for writing a song for the movie Working Girl, in 1988. Some of her songs still represent an era for many of us — for me, when I hear You’re So Vain, I’m transported back to that 1972 Girl Scout beach-cabin trip I took, during which it seemed to play hourly on our scratchy transistor radio.

How did Simon rise above the mess of her life to craft memorable songs? Here is a guide derived from the points I took away from her story:

1. Don’t let your childhood trauma block you. Simon’s childhood was privileged in one way, as the family had a summer compound in Connecticut and her father was one of the founders of publishing powerhouse Simon & Schuster. But her father was eventually forced out of the company and rendered frail by heart attacks, and the family’s fortunes declined. At the same time, her parents’ marriage was unstable and for a prolonged period before her father’s early death, her mother seemed to be carrying on an affair with one of the children’s attractive male tutors, the book relates. Simon came out of all this massively insecure, but committed herself to moving forward with her songwriting dreams despite it all.

2. Keep evolving. Most people probably don’t remember this, but Simon’s first singing gig was as part of a folksy duo with her sister Lucy. They sang a kids’ lullabye on Hootenanny, dressed in goofy matching outfits. Shortly after this brief brush with fame, her sister decided touring and performing wasn’t for her and moved on to motherhood and family life. This could have been Simon’s cue to hang it up also, but instead she began networking in the music community and looking for opportunity as a solo act. Later in her career, she was offered opportunities to move into new areas, scoring theatrical movies and even writing an opera. She could have run from these big leaps into new areas, but took them on and excelled.

3. Get out of your comfort zone. Terrified of flying, Simon had to get on an airplane to play her first big solo gig, which was at the famed Troubador on Sunset Boulevard in Los Angeles. She brought a friend for moral support and took tranquilizers, but she got her butt there. She opened for Cat Stevens. The rest is history.

4. Make connections. From early on, Simon realized that connecting with other famous songwriters could help her career. She set her sights on having Mick Jagger sing backup on You’re So Vain, for instance, and didn’t stop until she got him. Her celebrity friends helped her at many stages of her career, introducing her to new record-label execs and managers when she needed a fresh start — a situation she found herself in time and again, after albums stiffed or didn’t do well when she couldn’t tour.

5. Rise above your personal-life dramas. Simon fell hard for songwriter James Taylor. When they married, he was a heroin addict, and struggled with addiction throughout their marriage. Living with an addict and two small children might suck up all of an ordinary person’s mental energy, but Simon somehow continued to write, producing some of her best albums during this period. After divorcing Taylor, she married Jim Hart, who came out as gay toward the end of their relationship. Simon was not exactly lucky in love! Despite not having the stable base of a loving, functional marriage, she kept on writing and confronting her performing fears. In more recent years, she has also survived a battle with breast cancer and moved on to new creative projects.

6. Seek help when you need it. Simon saw a therapist for many, many years as she strove to overcome her performance fears and deal with her painful marriage breakups. Without professional help, it’s unlikely Simon would have become the famed writer and performer she did.

7. Get over the embarrassment. Although Simon is a famously private person, clearly at some point she learned to deal with it. She’s still around (and looking fabulous!) and making music. Her personal blogĀ (before it was removed during her website redesign) provided a frank account of many of the dark times in her life, and shared the good times with fans, too.

Carly Simon photo: Flickr-Alan Light

What is Copywriting? A Modern Definition and How-To Guide

What is Copywriting? A Modern Definition and How-To Guide

What Is Copywriting? The How-To Guide for Freelancers. Makealivingwriting.com

It’s a question so simple, you might think everyone already knows the answer: What is copywriting?

But in my decade-plus helping newbie writers launch their freelance careers, I’ve learned not to assume. People come from all walks of life into freelance writing, and aren’t born knowing the lingo.

When I researched this question, it got even more interesting. Because I disagreed with many of the most popular posts on the topic.

What I have for you isn’t your grandpa’s copywriting definition and description. It’s a rebel’s 21st Century copywriting definition — and a how-to guide on how to break in and do it.

How copywriting evolved

Old copy hacks will tell you copywriting is the art and science of crafting writing that sells.

They’ll tell you writing that overtly sells a product or service is copywriting — and everything else is ‘not copywriting.’

That was once true — but it isn’t any more. Because the Internet changed much of what we once knew about marketing.

I’ve got a new definition of copywriting for you, one I think is more accurate for the 21st Century marketing era we live in now.

Read on to learn what copywriting is today, how to do it — and how you can capitalize on the changes to earn well as a freelance writer.

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